After I watched last week's episode of How I Met Your Mother a relationship topic arose:
Robin: "Every good relationship has a reacher and a settler."
Ted: "Exactly, one person reaches for someone out of their league, the other one settles for someone below theirs."
I analyzed every relationship Or girl I ever dated. I came to the conclusion: I'm a Reacher.
I'll admit, I have high expectations of what I want in a woman. I didn't realize I had high expectations until several people asked me what I was seeking in a relationship. I had the list in my mind, but never wrote it down on paper. When I put it on paper, the list had about 20-30 expectations.
When these people saw the list, I received negative feedback. I was told "Good Luck", "Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny are more realistic than this dream girl", and a few told me to get rid of my list.
Why should I give up on my list? I found my expectations to be sensible. I don't want to settle for something less. I don't expect anyone to settle for something less than what they desire. I understand there are some compromises to be made in a relationship, but there are somethings I will not budge. Have I let my expectations get in the way of a possible great relationship with a great woman? Yes. I'm sure they are happier with whomever they are with today.
I'll continue to live my own life and be a reacher until I find the right person where we can share in each others' happiness.
You as well as anyone should always have good standards when it comes to meeting someone. I don't think I (or anyone) have said you should just settle for just anyone or the very next person who enters your life. But each person has his or her version of "standards" or comfortability. As long as you meet someone you're completely on par with from the get-go, and if that comfortability (more than just mutual interests, etc.) continues into unconditional love, then you're set. (BTW: If you haven't seen 500 Days of Summer, I suggest it highly. Lots of "good points" there ;-)
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