After I watched last week's episode of How I Met Your Mother a relationship topic arose:
Robin: "Every good relationship has a reacher and a settler."
Ted: "Exactly, one person reaches for someone out of their league, the other one settles for someone below theirs."
I analyzed every relationship Or girl I ever dated. I came to the conclusion: I'm a Reacher.
I'll admit, I have high expectations of what I want in a woman. I didn't realize I had high expectations until several people asked me what I was seeking in a relationship. I had the list in my mind, but never wrote it down on paper. When I put it on paper, the list had about 20-30 expectations.
When these people saw the list, I received negative feedback. I was told "Good Luck", "Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny are more realistic than this dream girl", and a few told me to get rid of my list.
Why should I give up on my list? I found my expectations to be sensible. I don't want to settle for something less. I don't expect anyone to settle for something less than what they desire. I understand there are some compromises to be made in a relationship, but there are somethings I will not budge. Have I let my expectations get in the way of a possible great relationship with a great woman? Yes. I'm sure they are happier with whomever they are with today.
I'll continue to live my own life and be a reacher until I find the right person where we can share in each others' happiness.